If anyone is in immediate danger, being threatened, or unsafe, call 000 now. If money is missing, call your bank first, then report the scam to police or ReportCyber. For identity risk, consider IDCARE. For cyber advice, call 1300 CYBER1.
Free first check before you pay for help.Some tech callouts can cost around $199 or more for simple scam checks. Your IT & Tech Mates built these free tools to help you slow down, check safely, and only book hands-on help when you really need it.Use free checker
No-blame relationship scam check
Romance Scam Warning Checker
Check warning signs before sending money, gift cards, crypto, identity documents or private photos to someone met online.
Built for Australians who need a calm first check before clicking, paying, replying, sharing a code or installing anything.
Privacy reminder: Do not enter passwords, one-time codes, card numbers, Medicare details, licence details or private documents. Tick the warning signs only.
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Triage first
What happened? Choose the safest starting point.
Use this as a first-check triage system. Start with the situation, then move to the safest next step before paying for help.
Safety rule: If money is missing, contact your bank first. If anyone is unsafe or threatened, call 000. Do not share passwords, one-time codes, card numbers or ID details in these tools.
User-tested safety flow
Designed for the moment people feel rushed or unsure.
This tool now gives a clearer path for three real situations: checking before acting, helping someone else, or recovering after money/details were shared.
Before acting
Do not send gift cards, crypto, bank transfers, identity documents or intimate images while you feel pressured or isolated.
Safest first step
Pause payments and document sharing. Talk to one trusted person before replying again, especially if the other person asks for secrecy.
If something already happened
If money or identity details were shared, contact your bank if money is involved and save the chat before the profile disappears.
Free scam safety helper
Tick what applies.
The result gives a simple risk level, what to avoid, and the safest next action.
Before I actUse this page first, then verify through official details.
Already actedSelect Yes below so the result switches into urgent triage steps.
Helping someoneUse the no-shame share block and keep private details out of messages.
Share this safety check
Help someone check before they click, pay or share details.
Scams spread fast. Sharing this free checker with a parent, friend or work colleague may help them pause before they lose money or share personal information.
Share gently with someone you are worried about. No blame, just help.
If someone online is asking for money, secrecy, gift cards, crypto or urgent help, pause and check the warning signs first. This free Australian checker may help: https://youritmates.com/services/tools/data-and-security/romance-scam-warning-checker.html
I’m helping someone else
Use a gentle, no-blame approach. The goal is to slow things down and keep them safe.
Do not blame or shame them.
Ask them not to reply, pay, click or install anything yet.
Check the message, caller, payment or website together.
Save screenshots, numbers, links and receipts.
Get help if money, passwords, identity details or remote access were involved.
Your IT & Tech Mates
Romance Scam Warning Checker
Stop. Check. Stay Safe. A quick first-check guide for Australians.
Warning signs
They ask for money, gift cards or crypto
They want secrecy from family or friends
They have urgent emergency stories
They avoid video calls or meeting safely
They pressure you after building trust
Next safe steps
Pause before sending money or personal details
Talk to someone you trust
Save messages, profiles and payment requests
Do not send gift cards, crypto or bank transfers
Get help if money or identity details were shared
Free checker: https://youritmates.com/services/tools/data-and-security/romance-scam-warning-checker.html Need local help? Call 0452 323 571.
A no-blame way to check relationship scam warning signs
Romance and friendship scams work because scammers build trust before they ask for money or personal details. Being targeted is not a character flaw.
The safest next step is to pause, talk to someone trusted, and save evidence before sending more money, gift cards, crypto or documents.
What to do if it feels urgent
Pause all payments, gift cards, crypto transfers and document sharing.
Talk to one trusted person before replying again.
Save the chat, profile link, photos, phone numbers, bank details and receipts.
Do not warn the other person before saving evidence if you are worried they may delete messages.
If money or identity details were shared, contact the bank and use the evidence/account security checklists.
